The social changes created new weak classes.
Despite the blind violence, directly on human being, we now have a sneaky and vindictive violence, typical of a woman who urges to destroy not only the spouse, but also his parental role, social position and his psychological balance..
Despite the fact that we know that women hold the sad supremacy of victim in domestic violence, we can not forget that men suffer from different forms of violence, maybe different but still equally serious.
In fact, the proof is the alarming numbers of suicides carried out in Italy by separated fathers.
The man turns out to be the defeated subject when the couple splits.
The decrease in income, the separation from children, who often gets sole custody [see today's legal practice in sole custody, that it is called "shared" - in deference to the purely formal reform of 2006 - but in fact it continues to determine a child's stay with the mothers for the 85% of the time, and with the father for the remaining 15%], a weapon of blackmail and suppression of the paternal figure, seriously undermines the person pushing to self-destructive behavior, addictions and desperate acts.
If it is true that women are more often victims at home, when it is about a couple in crisis, the man is the one to hold the primacy to be the victim.
Men rarely complain, because of the embarrassment or the fear of being deprived of their children just because he is often denied the status of victim.
The man who reports the case to the police is considered inept and weak because it does not conform to the stereotype of macho men, who usually reacts. But also because there is a social prejudice due to government and legal systems, in favor of different genders.
Even the media help to nurture this gap. While we know all the inner drama of a woman, we rarely read of a man that suffer because he did not get home on time to play with their children, the suffering deriving from the fact that is away from his wife, or how frustrated he is if he does not earn enough to guarantee a comfortable life for his family.

 

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